Traveling Parent Tips
It is very difficult for parents who have kids to stay away from home without the kids. Regardless of whether it is for a weekend, for a month or longer than that, leaving your children alone is very difficult. It is not only challenging to the parent but also to the kids. Since there is very little you can do about it, the tips below can help the experience be less inconveniencing. Understand the ideal time to inform your child about your leaving. The age of the child and his temperament should guide you. Younger kids don’t really understand time intervals. Since most young children tend to be extremely anxious about their parents leaving, it is advisable to reduce the span of time you make them aware of your leaving so that the length of time to worry will be greatly reduced. Older kids are much more understanding, so you can break the news to them anytime. However, once you realize that you have to leave instantly, ensure that you let your child know immediately and stay as calm as possible.
It is also advisable to tell your child what you will be doing and how he or she can reach you. The child should most importantly know when you will be back. Then you can teach him to cross out one day every day that passes and that the last day marked on the calendar is when you will be coming back. It would be great for the child to know where you will be and assure her that you will be safe. Older kids can find out from the internet or from the map by themselves. It is crucial to assure your child that you will keep in touch and know their status while you are away. You can also further let them know where they will stay for the time you will be away. Ensure that the kids keep to the normal routine as much as they do in other times. If you are privileged to have a babysitter, let her know the instructions and the feeding schedules that should be followed strictly.
You can also leave something behind like a t-shirt or a toy for the child to remember about you. You can consider videotaping yourself as you read a goodnight message to the child so that the kid can always play the video before drifting into sleep. Some of the harsh goodbyes that can do more harm than good include sneaking away, acting anxiously, prolonging the departure or even showing how guilt you are. It is not good to limit communication over the phone, Skype or any video chat just for the purpose of keeping in touch and bonding as a family. However, you should not allow persistent calling or nagging as it can make it hard for you to attend to the responsibilities that took you away there. Make sure you believe the person you entrusted the care of the child to. Make your child that she is important to you by bring souvenirs to her and sharing your experiences with her.